#Are You In Control?

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Hello and welcome to the Malkan Show podcast. I am making Meghna Malkan. Thanks so much for joining me today on this episode of the podcast. I know your time is valuable and I am really happy that you're listening to me today. I have begun with this podcast because after being coached by the world's best I wanted to share with you guys.

What success habits, Success the stools and q's have helped me get on to higher levels of performance at work have a great relationship with my spouse and did and what really helps me stay focused and motivated all the time. So, guys, let's dive into the next episode.

Can we control everything that is happening in our lives? We cannot nor even attempt to do that. In fact, it's often believed that most of the misery people feel in life comes from attempting to control things that either can't be controlled or are inconsequential means they do not really matter. You cannot control something like the weather or the economy neither Can you control other people.

And I'm sure you've learned that by now for the most part we can control only the quality of our character our actions and the contributions that we make to the outside world still this deep innate human drive for control runs deep within us and we all need to strive for more of it until and last it is ultimately taken away from us how many times have you experienced this

And in the space in between, we have to learn the factors that we can control versus those that we cannot because that's what makes our journey remarkable, and that's what this podcast is all about if I ask you if I begin by asking you simple questions like how in control of your mind, your emotions, and your experiences do you feel at the moment and how much in control are you of the immediate world around you the answers that you think say a lot about how you've chosen to exert yourself into this world and these answers correlate directly to your degree of Happiness.

Think about that. I know a few of us would feel that we spend so much of our lives trying to gain more control, but what specifically is it that we are trying to control, what factors make us feel as though we have enough control Had to be safe and happy. Broadly speaking. What we are all are after is a sense of control over the inner and outside worlds. Both.

We all want to have control over our conscious experiences our thoughts our feelings and our behaviors. We want to control the results we get and the relationships we have in the outside world.

That's a fact and this desire to regulate and to influence our overall Life experience is what the entire experience of control is all about and our drive for control can be can actually turn out to be a duet Swan for thinking about it because it looks at it this way if we seek too much control we end up becoming inflexible and rigid we start expecting everything to turn out exactly according to the plan that we thought in our mind and ultimately we lose Our ability to be receptive and to be adaptive to something that we did not anticipate.

we would try to suppress any variability in our lives and gauge ourselves into obsessively controlled routines and routine relationships routine environments. Think about that guys. We would collaborate less easily with others and we tend to treat people harshly even when they don't fall in line with what we want.

Do they think that It is terribly restricting and it would ultimately prevent us from experiencing the diversity of the color and the joy of a more flexible and released life and on the flip side? If we have no control over our lives no life can feel like a terrifying tailspin while when we read English control for going with the flow attitude that we want it.

May it sound wonderful right now, of course. Course, but it would also require that we disengage from what is real releasing all control completely hundred percent may work at this spa or maybe at the Mountain top but it lives, you know, when life goes on and lights momentum. It is generally not a great idea because no control means no choices.

No exerting our will and sometimes guys can leave us helpless without exerting control. We cannot Direct our minds or influence our environment and unfortunately, we are left without any freedom to choose our paths if we leave ourselves completely up to the wind’s chances and circumstances.

So all in all I'm not trying to tell you how much you should try either to rein in control or to cut loose with control. What makes me feel like I am properly in control of my life. It seems someone else's definition of either too much or too little. We all need different levels of control at different points in our lives.

It is no one size fits all while I believe that most of us want to be somewhere in the harmonious middle path between the two extremes of each drive. That is not always the case and has said that while we do this topic, I believe the most important thing that we could all control is our life.

Because most of the events and experiences that happened to us in life are often random, unexpected, coincidental, or if you really feel that they don't feed it which means they just won't happen and are outside our anticipation and guys this happens most of the times,

however, our ultimate response, which is the meaning we give to these occurrences in our lives is a hundred percent all these in In that ability lies the greatest differentiator of human experience and your strongest tool in living a really different life.

It turns out that the grandest needle mover in our depth of control over our lives is our outlook that determines everything the quality of meaning that we attach to events in our lives and in our future the targets every single thing.

The other major interpretation we make and should control to safeguard our Outlook two things is how we relate events and incoming information to our self-concept which means to cover identity. because those who are living a limiting life review incoming negative information and life experiences as evidence that they are either bad or they are not worthy versus those who live in good self-esteem.

live a comfortable life feel that they are not enough or should have personally prevented problems from arising in their lives. But those who are in real charge and we are in control of their life. They see information as just that that is information.

They don't attach negative emotions and judgments to themselves just because someone says something negative or something negative happens in the world, they protect their self-image and realize.

That sometimes chaotic and volatile world the not shake their internal Constitution or perspective on how magical the world can truly be. So, this is the power that we all have this internal power to safeguard direct our Outlook that's important and that will run really allow us to shape and determine your character.

Because guys I believe one of the most defining choices you can make in your entire life is to decide to control the quality of person You will become on an everyday basis. Well, I mean, what are the things that you want to stand up for? What kind of positive values standards and believes? Will you demonstrate every single day how much honesty integrity and kindness will insist upon when you meet the world that is the stuff of character that is

Something which is in our control. So, if we start today if he

Intentional today and we sent this Relentless focus on living our lives as the greatest person we can be in every situation things have been different. we could demand that we demonstrate a strength of character in such a way that we find pride in who we are and that others see us as role models. We cannot control everything in life.

But what we can control is the person that we are being how we are treating others what purpose is driving us by controlling the quality of our character is in in a day by day and interaction by interaction a situation by situation kind of way is what will truly determine the quality of our life that we live and also the Legacy that we leave behind.

It these areas where our preparation lies our ability to maintain a great attitude and live with Integrity experience the magic and variety of the world and direct our own agendas and life in a more positive and productive way that we could ever imagine and once we are collectively disciplined in doing so we will realize that will wake up every single day to more magnificent life.

Go ahead, guys. Try it out. I wish you all the best.

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 November 19th, 2020      #The Malkan Show