#Pain and Pleasure

SUMMARY

In this episode, Meghana talks about Pain and Pleasure

Have you experienced that magical moment when pain becomes your friend and drives you into magical discoveries about yourself? Let’s talk pain and pleasure in this episode and discover why do people experience pain, yet fail to change.

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Hello and welcome to the Malkan Show podcast. I am Meghana Malkan, thank you so much for joining me today for this episode of the podcast.

I know your time is valuable and I am really happy that you are listening to me today.

I have begun with this podcast because after being coached by the world's best I wanted to share with you guys what success habits, success tools, and q's have helped me get on to higher levels of performance at work. Have a great relationship with my spouse and kids and what really helps me stay focused and motivated all the time.

So guys, let's dive into the next episode.

Do you feel about your life or do you feel life seems to be controlling you? The secret to answering this question lies in how you are using pain and pleasure in your life. As my favorite mentor, Tony Robbins says, the Secret of success is to learn how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure using. Because if you can do that, you are in control of your life.

And if you don’t it seems as if life is controlling you.

This often brings up a very interesting question about why is it that people experience pain yet fail to change? Maybe they haven’t experienced enough pain yet. They haven’t hit what you call an emotional threshold. If you've ever been in a destructive relationship, finally made the decision and finally made the decision to use your personal power and take action and change your life.

That has probably happened because you hit a level of pain you weren’t willing to settle for anymore.

We have all experienced those times in our life when we have said ‘I have had it, Never again. This must change.’ So this is that magical moment when the pain becomes our friend.

It drives us to take new action and to bring up new results for ourselves in our life. And of course, we become, more powerfully compel to act in that same moment when we begin to anticipate how changing will create that great deal of pleasure in our lives. And this process guys is not just limited to relationships, Maybe you have experienced that threshold with your physical condition.

Finally got fed up because you couldn’t squeeze into a small airline seat or you couldn’t fit into your clothes and finally you said to yourself I have had enough and you made that decision.

What motivated you in your life to take that decision. It was that desire to remove pain from your life and get pleasure once again and that is the pleasure of time,  the pleasure of comfort, the pleasure of self-esteem, and the pleasure of living life, the way you have designed.

Of course, there maybe be many levels of pain and pleasure. For example, you're feeling a sense of humiliation is a very intense form of emotional pain. Feeling a sense of inconvenience is also pain and so is boredom. Obviously, some of these have less intensity but they still factor into that equation of decision making.

Have you ever heard about a  schoolchild, who was bullied a lot by his peers and he could take all that, all that coming to him until the day that he decided that he's had enough and he stood for himself making his parents proud?

Much of our drive in life comes from anticipating that our actions will lead to a more compelling future than today's work, which will be well worth the effort.

The rewards of pleasure are near, yet there are so many levels of pleasure as well. For example, the pleasure of ecstasy, while most of us would agree that it's intense but that pleasure will sometimes be outweighed by the pleasure of comfort. not pressured.

It all depends upon your perspective which pleasure weighs high for you.

Let's understand this with an example. Suppose you are on your way to work and you have a small child in your home. The child asks you to play a little while with him/her.

What would you do? I mean spending a few minutes playing with the child inside of you know at the risk of getting late at work, it depends upon the pleasure perspective of that person. Suppose you get a lot of pleasure playing with that child, your energy, feels happy.

You wouldn't mind getting late to work because you had that pleasure the joy of playing with that little child.

So in this case, maybe the perceived pain of being late for work pain relief outweighs the pleasure that you get from playing the child. Or on contrast, if you would feel that being the child is of waste of time of your productive hours, you could accomplish much more if you get to work on time, then the pain of that frivolous and inappropriate time is greater than the pleasure of playing with that child.

Each day of Our Lives is filled with this kind of psychic negotiation. We are constantly weighing our own actions and the impact they will have on us.

Let's understand with one more example, Let’s take these two prominent personalities. Donald Trump, the then President of the USA, and Mother Teresa.

They both are driven by the same force and if I tell you, you’ll say are you mad! They couldn’t be more different but It's absolutely true that they are values are at opposite ends of the spectrum, but they're both driven by pain and pleasure. So it hits to understand the impact that these pain and pleasure points have on the everyday decisions that we make.

Remember the decisions are either out of pain or out of pleasure and once you know, the kind of importance that you are paying to each, the easier your choice becomes.

I wish you more aware of the choices that you make. Wish you all the best.

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Jun 1st, 2021   #The Malkan Show